For many couples experiencing fertility problems, in-vitro fertilization can seem like the one last hope at having the baby that they so desire. Already they have endured months of quenched hopes when they come to the fertility treatment center and embark on an emotional journey of treatment. Most people do expect fertility treatments to be a hard and emotional process-but few are aware of the true magnitude. The process is grueling, both physically and psychologically, and there is little way to prepare for it except through experience.

The Emotional Process of IVF
Since IVF has the highest success rates, and often considered the last course of action, it  is difficult to leave room for the possibility of failure. Seemingly endless trips to the fertility treatment center, shots, date checking, temperature taking, and scheduling all take the forefront of the relationship leaving little room for much else. The days are filled with expectation, and the relationship is consumed with this one goal.

Financial Factors
In addition to the monthly cycle of high hopes and deep disappointments, the couple often begins to feel financial pressures mounting. No doubt most couples would give up anything to have a child, but it does not mean that it will come without difficulty, or that other unexpected expenses will not arise.

After Failed IVF
Many couples experience a wide range of feelings after an IVF failure. There are likely strong feelings of grief, disappointment, and even guilt. The woman may not only feel a deep loss for herself, but also a terrible guilt in not being able to conceive and carry a child her partner so longs for. There may be some secret resentments, however unreal, unreasonable or unfair.  There may be some regret in investing so much of their  time, money and energy into something, only to be so terribly let down.

Grief
As hard as the in-vitro fertilization process can be, while in it, there is always at least the hope of future success. If the IVF process has not been successful, the emotions can range from deep disappointment to a deep depression. Initially, the hopelessness can be overwhelming. Grief has as a schedule unique to each person that can not be forced, hurried or ignored. The good news is; grief does have an end. The time spent in the fertility treatment process with all the hopes and dreams, will remain important and vivid, but the emotions will eventually become bearable.

The Good News
While experiencing depression is a real and reasonable reaction, it does have an end. Studies show that even though infertility can shake the foundations of a relationship, most develop a core strength that others, not experiencing the hardship, do not have. One study notes that an overwhelming majority of couples successfully take an alternate path to parenthood.
Getting on Track
The key to getting through the most difficult times is getting the right help. After  and unsuccessful procedure, the fertility treatment center is like to be able to connect you to professionals that deal specifically with the issues you are facing. Most fertility treatment centers also have support groups to offer the unconditional support of common experience.